Repair Your Relationship Using Baby Steps Instead of a Leap of Faith

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If you have been enduring a distressing break up, your mind probably isn’t thinking too clearly or rationally. There’s a high probability that your mind is scrambling to find ideas that will help repair your relationship. Making decisions and take action in those first few days after the break up, you will undoubtedly wind up making things worse instead of better. If you are genuinely interested in how to get a woman back, more obvious than you realize. You have to take it slow and use baby steps instead of asking for a leap of faith.

I’ve been happily married for twenty-one years. I’ve been in the marriage and wedding business for the past ten years. I’ve seen quite a few men and women that I could easily tell were going to be together forever and I’ve seen couples that had no business getting married. After doing a lot of research on what makes a couple fit for one another I think this is a really simple formula to use when you’re trying to discover how to get a woman back.

Big steps hardly ever work. Let’s get that out there right up front. If you call your woman (or, God forbid, try to text her) and tell her that you want to get back together with each other, you can forget it. Not gonna happen. She just called it quits with you so why would she even consider getting back together with you? Trying to get right to the end game from day one isn’t going to work. Working on repairing your relationship has to be a gradual process. You have to re-bond with each other and think about what brought you two together originally. Getting back together with you now means, in her mind, “I’m wrong. He and I can go back to where we just left off and everything will be fine.”

Instead, allow things to move more slowly. Remember the old saying, how do you eat an elephant? 1 bite at a time. Take just one bite instead of a whole elephant. Let some time pass (perhaps a week?) and give her a call (under no circumstance should you do this via text messages). Simply ask her if she’d like to go get coffee after work. This should be simply a non-threatening way to start to get her thinking about you again. You will meet her on neutral grounds (like a Starbucks) and just simply talk. Don’t go into it with the expectations of repairing your relationship immediately. Just talk and have coffee. Use this time to see if the “romance” is still there and use that to build on, over time. Slow and steady will always win the race.

Remember, if you’ve recently gone through a break up, you will most likely feel vulnerable and have lots of negative emotions swirling through your brain. It’s vitally important to understand that there is no way you are going to cure that all at once. Only through a slow and steady healing process will you be able to allow yourself to return to normal. Do not allow yourself to give in to the temptation to fix the problem in one big leap of faith. Chances are the events that got you here didn’t happen all at one time. Fixing the problem probably isn’t going to happen that way either.