Pretense and Genuine Love – Knowing the Difference

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Pretense and deceit has overshadowed many acclaimed love relationships to the extent that love is now missing in many of them. Though many guys claim to love several ladies, many of them have suffered countless heartbreak.

Do not be deceived; his or her so-called love may just be lust or infatuation. So take time to discover a genuine love and be free from pretense

1) TRUST:

It is one of the signs of true love. It is the important blocks for building love. A rock solid relationship is the one cemented by trust. Any lady or guy that truly loves you will always trust your words, thoughts and actions. A lady or guy who claims to love you but keeps doubting your sincerity is not really in love with you. A courtship void of trust cannot lead to an enjoyable marriage. Lack of trust will make him or her hide many of his or her secrets from you, shielding you away from the opposite sex and querying your calls. Absence of trust is a pointer to a rusty marriage ahead.

2) UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:

Genuine love is one that emanates from the heart. Sincere love is not conditioned on anything. If the love of your so-called lover is based on your academic attainments, official position, facial look, height, sex and wealth, such lady or guy is not in love with you. If he or she is only happy when getting money or sex from you and quarrels or refrains from you when you are financially handicapped or do not give your body, then be sure he or she is a deceiver. Very soon he or she will call off the relationship.

3) SINCERITY:

A lady or guy that truly loves you will operate an “open door policy”. He or she will be open and truthful in their words, actions and dealings with you.
Sincerity is very vital in real love relationships because it is the door that leads to trust. Somebody who tells lies often hides her diary from you and who will never allow you to know his or her mail box password is not trustworthy. If you investigate thoroughly, you may discover that he or she is into another relationship. If your so-called heart throb is keeping two affairs at a time, then he or she is endangering your life. Openness and truthfulness are the hallmarks of a loving relationship.

4) GIVING:

Jesus Christ, the originator of love, demonstrated genuine love to us. In John 3:16 the Bible says “For God so love the world that He gave…………………………..”. Love is about giving; you cannot love without giving. Any lady or guy that only receives or asks without giving anything in return is not a lover, he or she is a “robber”. His or her motive is to empty your pocket or make you a dumping ground. Love becomes robbery when it only takes without giving. So a lover who often places heavy demands on your pocket or body, who does not care if you run into debt financially or spiritually to satisfy him or her is not a lover but a MURDERER of destiny and finances.

5) EXCITEMENT:

Is he or she always excited to see you? Are you given a warm reception whenever you visit him or her? Does he or she sing your praise or he or she is just tolerating you? Check it very well. Any guy or lady that truly loves you must celebrate you.

6) SELF CONTROL:

A guy or lady that cannot “zip up” till your wedding night, who has turned his or herself to a sex object does not really love. If all he or she is interested in whenever you are together is kissing, pecking, fondling, or sex, it is a dangerous game that will pitch you against God. It can even lead to unwanted pregnancy, abortion or barrenness. A lady or guy that lacks the fear of God will not respect you in marriage. Zip up! Beware, lest you get married to a saintly prostitute or a sex hunter who may want to use you to satisfy his sexual urge and later dump you for another ‘catch’. Be informed that many couples with regrettable marriage today laid their foundation on the spark of emotional demands of premarital sex.

7) PROGRESS:

Marriage is not for “help eat”, it is about help meets. It involves two people planning and working together towards progress in life. If the person you claim to love does not show interest in your future and all what he or she is living for is today, that means he or she is an “help eat”. Any guy or lady that is not ready to plan your future’s progress with you is not worth marrying. He or she won’t be there for you in future. True love adds value to life.